Men's Mental Health Month Reflection For years, we've told men to open up. We've encouraged them to talk about their feelings, seek therapy, cry when they need to cry, and let people see what is happening beneath the surface. And while these messages are important, there is a reality we don't discuss often enough: Many men are trying to become emotionally available while living in environments that do not always feel emotionally safe. The emotionally available man exists in a

In 2025, I walked into Envision Me thinking I was there to receive a word. I had my notebook ready, my professional "therapist" face on, and a list of goals I thought I needed God to sign off on. I thought I was there to sharpen my tools. I didn’t know I was there to be dismantled. Melia Arnett-Archie dropped a seed that shook the very foundation of my self-perception. She said: “The goal is to return to your pre-birth identity.” As a therapist, my clinical brain immediately

As a therapist, I am often in the room where the smoke of life meets the heat of relationship . I sit with couples in moments where nothing catastrophic has happened, but something has shifted. A sentence landed wrong. A tone echoed too deeply. A need was named, and suddenly the room felt unsafe. This week, especially, I’ve been mediating conversations shaped by unintended harm, strays that landed not because someone was careless, but because the atmosphere was already thic