People talk about letting go like it's one clean decision. You see that something isn't working anymore, you release it, you move forward, and you feel lighter. Sometimes that's how it goes. Often, though, letting go is messy. It's heavy, it hurts, and at first it can look nothing like peace. As a therapist, I hear this part of the story all the time, and it's rarely the part people post about. I hear it from people ending relationships. I also hear it from people leaving a j

Men's Mental Health Month Reflection For years, we've told men to open up. We've encouraged them to talk about their feelings, seek therapy, cry when they need to cry, and let people see what is happening beneath the surface. And while these messages are important, there is a reality we don't discuss often enough: Many men are trying to become emotionally available while living in environments that do not always feel emotionally safe. The emotionally available man exists in a

In 2025, I walked into Envision Me thinking I was there to receive a word. I had my notebook ready, my professional "therapist" face on, and a list of goals I thought I needed God to sign off on. I thought I was there to sharpen my tools. I didn’t know I was there to be dismantled. Melia Arnett-Archie dropped a seed that shook the very foundation of my self-perception. She said: “The goal is to return to your pre-birth identity.” As a therapist, my clinical brain immediately